I dunno, maybe it's good. I just haven't had the inspiration lately to write. I don't know if it is because I'm caught up with dating the most wonderful woman in the world, or if it because I am tied up planning a banquet for 600 people this week in the Wilk.
I think I have something to say though. I guess this is kind of a life tip.
When I was on the mission it was easy to allow your emotions to get tossed to and fro. It was easy to get down when 5 of your 6 appointments flaked on you that day. This is what I learned though: Life is always changing. And I don't just mean a slow steady change from A to B. I mean rapid, violent, every day changes from A to Z to T to R. And there is usually no indications of what is ahead. So I learned that while life can very easily change from being on the top to being on the bottom, it can just as easily change from the bottom to the top. It wasn't until the end of my mission that I realized that there wasn't much point in getting down, because the next day everything could change. So, you wait. You wait for the next boat to come in.
On a related note, and this is the heart of the matter, time is almost always our friend. I've found myself in some difficult situations lately. Situations where you have no clue what to do. There you are, life seems to be crashing down and seems to require you to act. Don't.
I have a climbing book and it includes a section on what to do when you hear someone above you yell "Rock!" Well, what you don't do is look up to try to see where it is coming and avoid it. you cover your head and hope it doesn't hit you.
So when you are there and life seems to be falling to your feet, sometimes the best thing to do is to wait. It's often our instinct to make a decision on the fly. This is hard for me because I "pride" myself in my ability to make quick decisions in the heat of the moment. I actually think I suck at it. Often times we are there with limited information. It is naive to think that by making responding and making a decision, that we will be any better than where we currently are. Sometimes we just want to get out of the current situation, but often times those decisions are made in a severe dearth of information. Often when we act, we commit ourselves to a decision and close of options that if we had only waited a moment or two more, we would have seen were the wisest decisions.
They say silence can never be misquoted. Similarly, I think that in a majority of tense situations there is wisdom in sitting back, taking your time, assessing the situation, gathering more information, reassessing, and then acting when you are more sure that your decision is the correct one. Sometimes, you have to go the extreme of just doing nothing, playing chicken with life, sitting down and saying "Yeah, I don't like this hand, and I'm not gonna play until I get a better one."
In conclusion, while it is true that each situation is largely unique and may require specialized consideration, there is something to be said for considering the possibility of inaction. Next time you are stressed and you don't know what to do, there are pretty good odds that perhaps the best thing you can do is wait. Do nothing while you wait for more information, inspiration, or indication that leads you to believe the considered plan of action will put you in a more beneficial spot that you currently are. I can't count how many times I have made a quick decision under the pressure of a tense moment, only to later regret that decision and spend a considerable amount of time seeking to undo it.
Sit back, remove yourself from the situation, and gather more information.
Though I alluded to the game of chicken, please don't take this advise if you actually are playing a traditional game of situation. I can guarantee you that anything you consider doing would put you in a more favorable position than in front of a speeding train. Trust me.